Thoughts on Disconnecting
This week, I’ve been thinking about disconnecting. While this might seem opposite to my posts on community, I think that one is not possible without the other. Having that said, this is more true for some than others.
As for me, I am an introvert working in an environment that requires me to interact with people ALL DAY LONG. No escape.
First of all, though, let me say that I think sometimes people think introversion means you’re very withdrawn or you don’t really like people. In fact, there have been times where I have told someone I’m an introvert and they’ve said: “You’re not that that much of an introvert.” (Maybe they feel like they need to make me feel better because they regard being an introvert as a bit of a negative thing?) Well, for those who know me well, they know I need quite a lot of to time myself to process and to think. If I don’t, I lose my center fairly quickly and life just doesn’t feel right.
It all comes down to where your energy comes from. For some, it’s mostly through interacting with others and for others it’s time by themselves. Also, it’s good to keep in mind that there’s a continuum and we all fit on there somewhere. Generally, you’re not just one or the other, you’re just one thing more than the other – even the most outgoing extroverts I know need time by themselves sometimes and find themselves feeling frazzled if they don’t get it.
Spending time by myself is a general part of my life because I’ve found a certain rhythm in which life works for me and I’m happy this way. For example, one of great things of having a dog is that it forces me to walk him (we don’t have a fenced-in backyard) and this is for me one of the easiest ways to get some downtime away from any form of connecting, be it other people or my own propensity to spend time on-line.
Especially in this day and age, where so much information comes at us all the time in so many different ways, it’s not a bad idea to deliberately take time to unplug for a bit sometimes. I know that I feel more giving and generous when I take the time to consciously do this and that is where it connects to living in community as well – when I take care of myself I am generally a better person to be around and that can only be a good thing.
What is your favorite way of disconnecting?